Grieving during the holidays is a rollercoaster of emotions. The festive vibe can feel off when you're missing someone special. Like, I felt happy hanging out with friends and family at Beyoncé Bowl, but then a tidal wave of sadness overwhelms me whenever I think about calling my Aunt Shanie and realize she’s no longer here. This mix of feelings is totally normal and shows why we need to be kind to each other during these tough times. We can support one another by recognizing the loss and making room for sadness, instead of pushing for happiness.
Creating new traditions can aid in healing during the holiday season and for the years to come without your loved one. Instead of focusing solely on past celebrations, finding ways to honor the memories of loved ones can bring comfort. For example, my family will continue with Aunt Shanie's personal commitment to providing care packages to new college students, making snowball cookies just like Grandma Vickie, eating sweet potato pie with cherished smiles about Aunt Pam, and going to Top Golf to display the best form while hitting drives in honor of Uncle Louis. These small gestures allowed me and my family to remember our loved ones while still embracing the holiday spirit. Adjusting traditions to include remembrance has helped ease the pain and creates a new sense of meaning.
The holidays might not ever feel the same, but finding ways to cherish memories can open the door to starting anew. Joining a support group or talking to friends who understand the pain of loss can provide comfort. Sharing stories about loved ones can also bring a sense of closeness and allow for healing. Connecting with those who have experienced similar feelings can lessen the sense of isolation that often accompanies grief. Overall, it's important to remember that reaching out for help during your grief journey is a sign of strength, not weakness.
I'll take it day by day.
I'll reach out for support.
I'll allow myself to feel how I'm feeling even when I don't know how to feel.
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